I know that most of you just want to learn what to say, in other words, “the lines”. I don’t blame you at all, I was the same as you when I first started out. You want to know what happened several years later?
I sat down and told myself “If only I just build up myself first, things would have been so much easier for me…” So save yourself a lot of time and read and understand this section first before you go onto the next one.
A lot of successful guys, I know, have one thing in common. This is the one thing that fuels them day in and day out. It’s that bright light at the end of the tunnel. It’s the driving force behind all their successes.
I’ve tried to put my finger on it in the past but it took me quite sometime to figure out what it was. I used to think to myself, “What does this guy have that I don’t, I mean, we both have charismatic personalities and great sense of style. There’s something about him that makes him complete as a person.”
I really thought I would never figure it out… Until this one day came.
My friend and I were just chatting about life. I hadn’t seen him in years because he was stationed in Iraq. I admired this guy for his strength and courage. I always wondered how he was able to do it.
So to make a long story short I asked him “It takes a lot of guts to do what you did. How were you able to handle it? Back in those days when you were stationed in Iraq, what were you thinking of?”
He replied:
“All those days I spent there just help built me up as a person. Most people probably hated being there, I just accepted it. I knew there would be a lot of people who’d be negative about the experience. I had that choice. I had two choices: should I go through all of this hardship, be negative all the time, and be the same person I was to begin with? Or should I just barrel through this period with my head held up high, cherish every moment of my journey, and end up to be a better person? I chose the latter. I just knew that I had it in me to succeed beyond a shadow of a doubt. Failure just wasn’t an option for me.”
I suddenly had one of those “Light bulb popping up in your head” moments. These moments don’t come to me that often but whenever they do, they always hit me hard over the head.
You’ve Been Programmed to Fail with Women and You Probably Don’t Even Know It!
We all walk through this world with our beliefs. These beliefs have been integrated into our being, probably since we were little kids. What we believe in is a product of the things we were exposed to all our lives. There are a lot of factors that have molded us to be the person we are today. Examples of such factors are
FRIENDS
FAMILY
SCHOOL SYSTEM SOCIETY
MEDIA CULTURE ENVIRONMENT
WOOOOWW! That’s a lot of factors influencing us. Sad to say, we’ve been programmed like robots to act in a self-sabotaging way toward women.
Let’s start out with media and advertising.
Love makes the world go round and money keeps it spinning…
For the most part, we live in a society that’s driven by money, power, or fame. The ones on the top set the rules so that everyone can follow. Not only that, they set the standard of what is cool, attractive, and desirable.
Let’s take on the subject of appearance.
Contrary to popular belief, appearance isn’t everything. You can still get laid even if you do not look like the guy from the cover of a fashion magazine. You can get a girl even if you’re not rich, not well built, or not tall. You can make a beautiful girl with an outstanding personality fall for you regardless of your race!
All of this may be hard to comprehend but it will make sense to you in a minute. Let’s take a good look at magazines for a second. This is true for both men and women alike.
Who do you see on the covers of popular magazines? I’m sure you all know the answer to this one:
Celebrities
Attractive and fit people
Rich people
And everything else I forgot to mention
Am I the only one that sees what’s going on here?
Where can you find the hottest men and women? Usually on the front of
a magazine, where there sculpted bodies are exposed and their stunning facial features modified to intimidate almost anyone.
The average girl would think “That’s the girl that everyone in my school thinks is hot! She’s skinny and she wears (Insert brand name of clothing here), I need to buy everything she has and be like her so I can be hot too…”
Same thing for a guy “Oh, that guy has the hottest girl I’ve ever seen. He’s rich, tall, famous… He even has the fastest car around, he has this sick ass watch, and…”
To make the long story short, both the man and woman in this example end up concluding
“In order to be desirable, cool, and up to date I need to have this, be this, and join this…”
And whoever said advertising wasn’t effective? What actually happened was that the media brainwashed people into thinking that they need all of this in order to be cool.
The truth is… YOU DON’T
Yeah being rich, tall, famous helps but it’s not the only way. Anyone armed with the techniques and philosophies I’ll discuss in this book can attract the kind of woman that’s usually reserved for the good looking, famous, and rich!
IT’S TIME TO RE-PROGRAM YOURSELF TO YOUR ADVANTAGE!
Have you ever heard of the saying perception is reality? Your thoughts become your words.
Your words become your actions.
Your belief becomes who you are.
What if I told you that everything that you believe in, only if you really really believed in it, becomes who you are? Would you believe me?
You better, because by reframing some self-sabotaging beliefs, you too can be successful with women. This is where everyone should start regardless of their goal.
What if you can reprogram your entire self, so you can move through the world naturally attracting people in your life?
Before I hear any objections, you’re not going to be someone you’re not. You’re just going to be a better version of yourself.
You have to live up to your full potential. It makes me sad to see all the guys out there that are still walking through life brainwashed by society. If only I could snap them out of their trance… but then again, that would be too idealistic
of me.
Alright, back to my story.
After I talked to the guy and realized everything I just told you, my whole world changed, literally before my very own eyes. I adopted bits and pieces of his philosophy in life, and went on a journey to seek the truth. Ever since then I began seeing some amazing results from all the interactions, struggles, and relationships that I’ve had.
And that’s when it occurred to me that…
YOU HAVE TO BELIEVE, BELIEVE, BELIEVE!
I’ve learned a couple of lessons that I will be sharing with you. These have been very useful for me and hopefully will be for you.
Change will not occur overnight, but the sooner you start believing, the faster you’ll get to your destination. I’m just sharing with you everything that’s worked for me and the thousands of guys I’ve trained after I discovered everything I’m about to share with you.
Here’s how this works. I’ll be discussing 8 Inner Strength Lessons that I’ve found to be very useful in my journey. For the next 30 days, I want you to go over this chapter again and again. Don’t stop reading until you start practicing and believing the 8 Inner Strength Lessons. I will also provide you with exercises so your belief is reinforced with real world results.
INNER STRENGTH LESSON : MY PRESENCE ALONE IS VALUABLE TO OTHERS
Have you ever had the feeling that you’re not worthy to even talk to someone?
Have you ever hesitated to approach a woman just because you had that damn “Why should she even talk to me? I’m not her type… and besides, I don’t know what to say” speech playing in your head?
Let me ask you this, how can you be so sure she thinks that way if you haven’t even approached her yet?
Okay, but I’ve approached girls in the past and they’ve shot me down more times than I can think of…
Just because you had one bad meal in your life doesn’t mean you should stop eating right? Every girl is different. Every situation is different. If you believe that everything you say or do is valuable, then it will be valuable to others.
Starting now, I want you to believe that your presence alone is valuable to others.
I’m sure there’s a time in the past when you were yourself and everyone just loved you. The time when, all of a sudden, people were hanging off every word you said. The time when you were relaxed and comfortable with yourself.
TRY THIS OUT
I want you to start looking back and remember the times where you were indeed valuable to other people. I want you to remember the times when you made several people feel good about themselves.
Got that memory? How does it make you feel?
Have you ever surprised someone with something really special before? What did you feel like before you gave it to them? Felt good didn’t it? That’s how you should feel before talking to anyone. You’re doing them a favor by talking to them.
Try this out, next time before you talk to someone, imagine that you’re about to give them a million bucks in the next five minutes, how does that change the way you act toward them? Try it out.
INNER STRENGTH LESSON : TAKE WHAT’S YOURS! NEVER APOLOGIZE FOR WHO YOU ARE AND THE THINGS YOU DO! YOU ARE YOUR OWN BOSS!
There’s one thing that you will realize later on…
You can do anything you want, whenever you want, wherever you want. And you can get away with it.
Once again, we’ve been programmed by society to look up to others for “permission” to do something we want to do.
Remember the time when you were in grade school? You had to ask permission every single time you went for a trip to the rest room. Well, by the time you got to college, you just probably stood up and went straight for the rest room didn’t you?
Another example is the very famous Bill Gates. Do you think he ever asked permission if he could start up a business and drop out of school as it took off? Nope, he just had a plan, executed it, and never looked back.
So what do you want to do? What’s stopping you?
You are your own boss. You have permission to go after the things you want
in life. You have permission to be the best that you can be. And you have permission to date any girl you want regardless of what anyone says. You have permission to change your beliefs.
I want you to live life like you own the world. Everything is yours. You do not need anyone’s approval before you do something. You do not need permission to dress in a certain way. You already have it in you.
It’s about time to free yourself from the prison that your mind is in. Here are some tips you can start integrating in your life:
- It’s always better to ask for forgiveness than to ask for permission. Next time you go out to the malls and you see a bench with an open spot, just go ahead and sit down. Don’t ask anyone for permission just do it.
- Make your own decision and take your own stand. Don’t wait for others to tell you what to do. Don’t look for others to make decisions for you. You can do them yourself. Always voice out your opinions. Don’t be afraid
to state your opinions just because someone else thinks otherwise. Don’t be afraid to spark tension. Always say what’s on your mind, if you don’t agree with someone simply say “I disagree” and leave it at that.
- Learn how to say “No”. It’s hard to get used to saying “no” but you
have to give it a shot. Just try saying it. It’s not that bad. You’ll notice
that people will begin to respect you more because you’re upfront.
You wouldn’t want to be known as the “yes” man. If it’s reasonable and you’re up for it then say “yes”. If it will compromise you or for some reason you just don’t feel comfortable with it then say “no”. - I’m not trying to impress you. This boils down to being who you are despite what other people think. Don’t ever change just because someone else wants you to. Don’t be ashamed of your past, background, or status. Be proud, stand tall, and don’t bow down to someone just because you perceive them as being better than you. One motto you can use is “I’m not trying to impress you… And you sure have to do more than that to impress me”.TRY THIS OUTLet’s start out with simple exercises. The next time you’re about to line up, and someone gets there the same time you did, don’t hesitate to just smile and take the spot first.
When you’re at a party and someone asks: “Who wants such and such drinks” Don’t hesitate to raise your hand first and say “Over here”.
Wear an outrageous piece of clothing and when someone give you a hard time about it just smile and say “Thank you”.