Bottom line, if you maintain order and make it your personal mission to make sure everyone (including yourself) is having fun at your party, then this is all you need to get women interested.

Setting the Stage to Funnel Girls into Your Next Party

Being a great host will powerfully draw people to you because you are the facilitator of everyone’s fun. You own the night. This will create a reputation for you. All you have to do now is befriend everyone and make that one girl you want feel special. Get to know her and then escalate the interaction (which we will get into soon).

People will want to come to your future parties if they had a good time. As long as you have plenty of alcohol and follow the steps I’ve outlined in this book, your guests will feel special and will be more than happy to say all sorts of great things about you. With this type of positive feedback, your next party is sure to have more women from just your guests bringing their friends alone.

On top of that, the pictures that you take will end up in your guest’s Facebook albums. This is why I encourage you to take pictures – your presence in all of these pictures is a way for you to advertise how great your parties are without saying a word.

Now, when you add women to your Facebook profile, it will be very apparent that you throw great parties and have a great social life since you’ll be tagged in all of these pictures with multiple women.

After following this method for a period of time, you will not need to do anything to get new girls to come to your party. Sure, you can add some hot girls as friends on Facebook if you want to hand pick some sexy female guests, but overall the girls that come will be through the network that you’ve created. These are the best kinds of guests because they’re coming in already thinking of you as an amazing guy (from your reputation), so hooking up with them is like shooting fish in a barrel.

Encouraging Your Female Guests to Be Naughty

All girls want is a good excuse. This comes down to making it “not her fault that she hooked up”, as society can put negative judgments on a girl’s actions.

Give girls the excuse to be naughty: Girls want an excuse to dress slutty. Girls want an excuse to act slutty. So give the girls an excuse and they will be sure to come to your party in droves once it’s been established that your parties are fun and you’re not a creep.

Use sexual themes once you have developed a solid base clientele. Once you have thrown enough parties to get most of your female guests comfortable with coming over, it’s time to start throwing parties with naughtier themes. Using a sexual theme naturally gives your party a more sexual vibe, especially once everyone is settled in and comfortable. It’s not essential, but it often accelerates your ability to escalate your interactions into the bedroom.

When it comes down to it, after you have thrown a few good parties you will have made a reputation for yourself and you really won’t need to “game” much at all. You have become the valuable man in the situation and girls will gravitate towards you and your high status.

Getting hot women to see you as the popular, fun, high- status guy is the point of throwing repeated house parties. You become the facilitator of fun and girls will associate their fun nights with you. Then your reputation will build and it will do all the work for you in terms of getting women excited about you. After you’ve thrown a few great parties (two or three), you can easily just pull girls to your room just by saying “come on I’ll give you the grand tour.” Remember, they will already be attracted to you, so it is just a matter of getting them comfortable with you and then it’s ON.

Getting them attracted to you will be taken care of, so your focus should be on befriending them and making them comfortable. Once they are comfortable and you begin to connect with them, go for it. You will already have a powerful attraction from them working in your favor and escalation will be easy.

Framing Party Hook-ups

When it comes to actually hooking up with girls at your party (or any party), the biggest factor in the equation is your mind and how you think about hooking up with girls at a party. The way you look at hook-ups will determine your ability to hook-up at your parties.

You will want to look at party hook-ups as light and fun and a way to blow off steam. Not as meaningful or meaning anything about you, about the girl or about anything substantial between you and her (though you can always follow up with the girl). Having a light, carefree attitude about hooking up at the party will make it much more likely to happen since the girl won’t feel any “weight” or “baggage” when she entertains the thought of hooking up with you.

She knows you’ll be cool about it. What do I mean when I say that? I mean that she inherently gets the feeling that you won’t get all emotional or attached, you won’t attach meaning to it, you won’t hurt her reputation or brag about it – this is what I mean by saying you will be cool about it. The best way to give her that vibe is to simply follow through on those things: don’t kiss and tell and keep your emotional reactions to a minimum.

As a host, I would encourage you to look at hooking up with a female guest as a special favor because you really like her and she’s shown herself to be more than just a pretty face. You should think of things in this way because when you do, she is much more likely to think of it this way too. Do it in a genuine, generous way, not an arrogant or cocky way.

On that same token, make her earn hooking up with you. After all, you are a caring, concerned host who wants all his guests to have a great time. If she’s not really energetically pursuing your desire and attention, she’s not returning the value you are worth.

Recognize Your Own Value

Finally, you need to fully recognize how great and valuable you are. Your ability to hook-up at a party (and really in any situation) is proportional to the value that you recognize in yourself. You already are valuable, but you have to truly realize it. I would encourage you to take 5 minutes before every party you throw to reflect on this.

How to Close the Deal with the Girl You Choose

When I throw a party, it is my belief that every single female guest there wants to sleep with me. It does not mean that all of them will be able to, for one reason or another, but the most important factor is my own belief that I can have my choice. Psychotic as it may sound at first, I have drilled this belief into my head to the point where it went from being just a desire into a very pronounced reality.

Still, even before I intentionally reinforced this belief, girls still were interested in me simply because I was the host. In fact, I didn’t realize at first the power that being a host really had until later on down the line.

You will notice that girls will talk to you about one thing or another. They will introduce you to their friends. They will compliment you or, if you’re meeting them for the first time, they will say that they’ve heard about you. When a girl takes the time to speak to you, it’s because she’s interested in you. She doesn’t need to speak to you – she’s choosing to because you strike her as the best choice there.

Be Laid Back – Let Her Seduce You

Now I want to point something out to you that will save you a bunch of heartache if you haven’t yet realized it for yourself. And that is that when a woman shows interest in a guy, most guys will feel like it’s time for them to perform for her as if he were some kind of dancing monkey. Never do this, especially as the host.

Instead when a girl is talking to you, just put your attention on her for the moment. Think good, positive thoughts about her and the idea of having fun with her. This keeps the vibe light and fun. Feel free to tease her a bit (push on where you feel she’s strong) and joke with her. Just keep it light because, in the public space, you want to be perceived as available to all the women.

A Player Reputation Can Help, But Be Classy…

Having a player reputation is absolutely fine, but hooking up in front of everyone will work against you in the long run. Girls will be curious about you if they hear or perceive that you have many women in your life, but they will see you as a “social liability” if you actually hook up in front of everyone (since the perception will be that you will hook up with everything that walks and that, by extension, the women you choose are “little whores”). Best to leave everything to the women’s imagination and have positive perception on your side.

Knowing When a Woman is Interested

Between the alcohol, your hosting position and your laid back attitude, it is only a matter of time before a woman approaches you with a very clear intention to hook up with you. Guys will ask me what to look for to know that a woman wants to hook up. I am telling you right now: When a woman wants to hook up with you, it will be such a green light that people from across the room will be able to tell. Just be laid back, enjoy your party and it will happen.

Sexually Escalating Your Interaction

When you’re talking to a woman, you will have moments where something inside you says to escalate the interaction to a more risky/sexual plane. You may be talking and get the feeling to move in a little closer. You may feel like you should kiss her. You may feel like you should take her hand or even lead her up to your room.

My experience has been that whenever you have that feeling, act on it immediately. Do so smoothly, but don’t hesitate or think about it. If you are nervous about making a move physically with a girl, don’t worry: This is your party so there is no better time to take a risk than at your own party.

To tie it all together, this is why you want to have people handling your party. By having someone watching the door and having good friends to look after your house, you have the ability to take the girl to your room and have fun with her without having to worry about what’s happening in your house.

Remember, when you are getting the feeling from the girl that she wants to hook up, you can and should trust that feeling. Even still, most of the time the girl will want you to give her an excuse to facilitate the seduction. Some lines that my buddies and I have used are:

• Hey I’ve got some really good vodka in my room, want to come do a shot with me?

• Hey, you want the house tour? [Note: This tour always ends with my room.]
• Hey come with me, I want to talk to you but it’s so loud in here.
•  Hey want to see this book in my room about different cities in Europe? [Note: Use anything you want to show her, as long as it’s in a good location for you and her to hook up.]These are just examples. The point is that you can say just about anything to give her a reason to go with you. This allows her conscience to remain intact since for some girls it feels “slutty” to convey that she actually intends to hook up with you. With an excuse, she feels she has plausible deniability. That is to say that she feels she can later say, “Oh, I didn’t intend hook up. It just happened…”

A Closing Note on Succeeding with Women Through Parties.
I know some of you guys will be reading this chapter and saying, “Wait, that’s it? I thought you were going to teach a whole bunch of sophisticated techniques to get women to have sex with me?”

There is so much material out there now about tricks and tactics to pick up women that I think men are beginning to think using that stuff only way to be successful with women in a consistent or powerful way. Meanwhile, the obvious eludes them.

This book is about actually providing real value to others in a way that naturally makes you extremely attractive. By following this path, you are not convincing or tricking women into thinking you are a great guy… you are actually being the great guy. Just because the path isn’t super glamorous or flashy does not mean that it’s not extremely powerful.

At the same time, for those who love technique, there is plenty more fun stuff to come. I just wanted to make this note so that you recognize what we’re aiming for here. Why try to create an illusion when you can much more easily be the genuine article?

There are many popular books and programs discussing how to pick-up women by presenting yourself in an attractive way. Many of the schools of thought today advocate conveying that you are a man of high value and that you are not all that impressed with her beauty. Some schools of thought have concepts like giving a “negative compliment” or “demonstrating high value” to kick start different stages of the attraction process.

And while all of these ideas have their power and place, we are shooting for something different. We are aiming at actually creating real social value and making you a rare, valuable person. Over the course of time, as you throw more and more parties, you really will be that valuable person to a large social circle. Instead of creating the veneer of value and attractiveness, why not actually BE that person by building real social equity?

Parties are the avenue we will be exploring in this post to build social equity. That does not mean that parties are the only way, but hosting parties is a great way to illustrate the idea of building social equity because:

•   Parties give you an opportunity to showcase yourself without any particular talent.
•   Parties are on your terms.
•   Parties put you in the leader position and naturally let

  you be the rock star.

•   Parties are a way where you can create your own social

  position, your own rules and your own value.

•   Parties make you a host, which makes you attractive in

  many different ways (which we’ll get into later).

•   Parties give people value.

  Later in the post, I will talk about how to maximize your effectiveness at parties that you are not hosting. Why do I choose to wait until much later in the book to discuss this?

Well, first, I want you to have an appreciation for everything it is to be a party host. Hosting a party is loaded with benefits and responsibilities. When you really recognize what it is to host a party, it will change your perspective on the party scene in general. Hosts, who may or may not necessarily know you yet, will feel more at ease with having you at their parties because they will feel your understanding and respect. You will also have an understanding of all these things that are working in favor of the people throwing the parties. With this knowledge, you’ll see how valuable it is to align yourself with the hosts of other parties to maximize your choices and effectiveness.

Throwing a good party is all about prep work. It is the most time consuming and demanding part, but your efforts will pay off ten-fold once you get into the groove of throwing parties. With every party you throw, the setup will get easier and faster.

So in the first part of this book, we will be talking about very basic logistics. Basic, but of crucial importance. Our initial intent will be to find a place suitable for throwing excellent parties.

For example, if you live in a studio apartment surrounded by crazy old women who hate you, you might want to consider another venue for the party. On the other hand, if you have a buddy who has a house on a hill and virtually no neighbors near the house, you’ve got yourself a good bet.

We’re going to cover choosing the venue and what is worth taking into consideration.

And then there’s the question of how you’re going to fill your party with the women you want. How are you going to fill your party with hot girls if you don’t know any of these hot girls? Where are these women going to come from?

Getting the women to come to the party is the most important part – it’s why you bought this book! So I will go into great depth as to how you will get hot women to come to your party. It’s actually quite simple, but most guys don’t do it! I will show you all sorts of clever ways to get hot women to come and keep coming back.

So great, you have a party with hot women. But there are things you absolutely must make sure you do to ensure that you actually get to enjoy your own party. I have made the mistake of not doing some specific things when throwing my parties and it resulted in all of my guests having a great time while I was running around working the entire evening. Bad situation – I am going to show you how to have a great time at your own party and have everyone gladly do the “grunt work”.

And then there’s the matter of getting laid. My favorite part! Hosting a party is great, but you want to make sure that as the host you get first pick of all of the hot women that show up. In fact, I am going to show you how to be a host that can sleep with all of his female guests and have them loving you! Threesomes, fuck buddies, orgies… all possible once you follow the advice laid out in this book.

There are certainly bonuses too. I mean, after throwing a couple of great parties, you’ll have a whole new social circle available to you. Guys will love you for the value you’re offering them. Women will look at you like a rock star and brag about their hook-ups with you!

This is the reality that we are going to create. Let’s begin.

Choosing Your Party Location

Before you can have the party, you will need to choose the location where you will host it.

We want to make some considerations at the beginning as to where to throw the party, as this will determine the limitations and freedoms you and your guests will have at the party.

Good Relationships with the Neighbors

This is really important, so I listed it first. You absolutely want to make sure that you choose a location that is on good terms with the neighbors. If you do not know the neighbors, the best thing you can do as introduce yourself and politely let them know that you will be having people over. Be really respectful, charming and polite. Let them know that you will have everything under control and you wanted to make sure they knew you had them in mind as well. Tell them that if there is any disturbance at all, they can call you and you will immediately take care of it.

If you make this connection ahead of time, the neighbors will think you are nice and respectful and probably will just ignore the party. Worst case scenario, they may call you to ask you to calm it down, but that is not a bad scenario. Much better than them calling the cops because they don’t know you and therefore think you are a disrespectful punk.

If the neighbors are your age and seem like good people, give them an invite. Chances are they will throw a party in the future and they will welcome you to it. Nice bonus.

Choose a House with Large Open Spaces

People will congregate around wherever the alcohol is. If it’s in the kitchen, people will hang around there. If it’s in the basement, people will be down there. You want to pick a house with a large open space where people hang around after they have their drink, since they won’t go far from where the liquor is, generally speaking.

If you have a house with a yard and the weather permits, you could even throw a party outside. Not every part of the country is warm enough to do this, though, and rain is certainly a risk. However, a party outside is better than no party at all, definitely.

Choose a Place with Minimal Breakable Items

When throwing a party, things have a much higher tendency to get broken. Therefore, if you have a house with high- priced electronics or expensive decor, you will need to move these items somewhere else or you run a risk of them being destroyed. Moving these items takes time and effort, so you’re best off choosing a place that doesn’t have a ton of expensive, breakable stuff.

Since it’s going to be dark in whatever venue you throw the party in, you really don’t have to be too concerned with how fancy the place is. There are a ton of parties packed with college students thrown in dingy basements all the time – as long as you have a bunch of space and alcohol, you meet the requirements.

Choose a Place That is Accessible

Listen, people want to come to your party, get absolutely “blitzed” and then be able to make it home. As the host, you want to do your best to accommodate this desire.

Don’t throw your party out in the middle of nowhere unless you have a group of really committed friends who plan on spending the night. For our purposes, you want to throw the party in a place that is extremely accessible – by car, by taxi, by public transportation, etc. Make it easy for people to get there and back to where they live.

Making Connections For an Incredible Party

This portion of setting up your parties will take time to create and manage, but as with anything, it will be worth it.

This chapter will give you an overview of how to get the people you desire to come to your party.

At first, our strategy will be to make as many connections as possible, as quickly as possible. Later, in Chapter 10, I will discuss trimming your guest list down to only the best people.

Methods of Building a Guest List

Primary Method: Social Networking via Internet

In the old days, before social networking came onto the Internet scene, people learned about parties by their reputation through friends. People were more group-centric and tended not to venture that far outside of their cliques. The only way that someone would check out a random party would be if their friends gave them a high recommendation or if a party just had a great reputation. These days we can bypass creating a reputation and instead create the appearance of a great reputation out of thin air!

Most people these days belong to at least Facebook and/or Myspace. If you do not have an account on either of these sites, you MUST get on them. You must! There are tons and tons of very attractive young women who secretly use Myspace and Facebook to discretely meet and hook up with men, but would never bring themselves to formally join an “online dating service”.

Building a Guest List from Scratch.

Facebook is the best way and can be used to organize an event and create a guest list.

Our first objective is to create a pool of potential guests to your party. The best way to do this is by adding a massive amount of girls in your area to your friends list. Just search on Facebook in your area and add as many as you can.

Remember these are complete strangers, but most of these people are dying to meet new people. This is especially true if you live near a college or if you are in college.

Add 25 girls a day to you profile. Remember that many of these girls won’t come, so you need to add tons in this beginning stage. After adding a ton of girls, you are bound to start adding their friends, so they will think that you already know them or have some affiliation with their social circle at least. Once you create your party event and guest list, the girls will see the list and assume that you know all the girls already and think, “This guy is probably cool, he seems to know my friends… maybe I met him at some point,” and she will be much more likely to come to your party.

When adding new people, I have found that about 1 out of every 100 girls will message me asking if they know me. You can either ignore them or tell them that you think you met her at some place. Bottom line, at this stage you are in it for the numbers, so it really doesn’t matter.

Continue to build your online social network every day for at least a month (and afterward, whenever you feel like it).

The more girls you have, the better.

Meeting Women Everywhere and Inviting Them

Once you’ve made up your mind that you’re going to have a party, you might as well invite every hot girl you can meet in your day-to-day life to the party. The worst that could happen is the girl says “no” and you never see her again.

Before I really had momentum behind this whole party lifestyle, I would establish the Facebook event first and wait to see that a good number of people confirmed. After it was definite that I would be having the party, I would start chatting with hot women and inviting them to my party.

These days, I know that if I say a party will happen on a certain date, everyone will show up. Even if it’s raining, snowing, really hot, really cold, etc. In time, you will have that sort of loyalty with your guests and they will show up no matter what the conditions are for your parties.

For that reason, I will typically start inviting hot girls I meet within one week of when I think the party is happening. I will just strike up a friendly conversation with the woman and then at a high point in the conversation (like when she’s laughing at something I said or expressing interest in something about me), I will just throw out something like, “You know what? You should come to my party next Saturday.” Then I’ll drop the subject until the end of the conversation or until she picks it up and starts asking about it. It’s an easy transition into exchanging information at that point and you can let your party do all the gaming for you.

Women Travel in Packs

Don’t be afraid to invite her and her friends to your party. Women do not travel alone, they travel with their group – safety is essential to women when they’re going out, especially to meet a man or men they do not yet know well. Generally speaking, hot women will bring good people to your party.

Inviting Women to Parties as a Method

Now inviting women to my parties isn’t my only way of meeting women or getting their numbers. I am just highlighting that this is a viable way to meet women with a totally friendly, cool vibe and get their number without having to “game” them or do a bunch of tricks and tactics.

Take note that meeting women through inviting them through parties is quite effective and some guys use this method as their exclusive way to meet and seduce women. Quite successfully, I might add.

In future chapters, we will get into how hosting your own party can be used to your massive advantage in getting women to want you.

The Invitation: Getting Hot Women to Come to Your Party

Now that you have a whole list of women you find attractive, it’s time to pitch your offer: the invitation.

In this section, I want to talk to you about different elements that come into play when creating an invitation. The manner in which you invite the people will determine the results you get.

Again, you need to have a profile that puts you in the best possible light. You don’t need to be conventionally attractive, but you do have to appear fun and social.

People who don’t know you are going to see your invitation and think, “Party… I like parties… who’s this guy?” Then they’ll click your profile and as long as your profile puts you in a good light, most of them will come.

You might say, “Really? That easy?” Yes, it is. Most people are bored with their routine and are dying to try something new and meet new people. Multiply that by the feeling that this is a BIG party that EVERYONE is going to and they’ll feel like losers if they don’t go.

Part I: Enticing People to Come to Your Party

There’s a right way to go about inviting people and a wrong way. In terms of an invitation, we want to take some logistical points into consideration as well as some presentation points. Sure, this may seem a little bit like overkill in terms of preparation work, but this book is about maximizing your effectiveness. And speaking to you from the voice of experience, you definitely do not want to half- ass your invitations or you’re in for a pretty sad party.

Considerations for Getting Maximum Guests

Timing

Timing of the event is important. If you want a large party, hold them on the weekends. Obvious enough. My experience has been that people will be more apt to come to a party on Saturdays than on Fridays. After a long work week or week of studying at school, it’s much harder to get people out on Fridays. Plus, people generally make plans for their Fridays in advance and have open Saturday nights.

On invitations, I start my parties at 10:30 PM and expect that the guests will actually start pouring in around 11:15 PM. My experience has been that the majority of your guests will show up 45 to 60 minutes after the official “start time” for your party, so keep that in mind.

Advance Notice

Let people know several days before you throw your party. If you want to secure their Saturday night, you need to send out invites that Monday. My experience is that Monday is the best day to announce the party since announcing it any earlier runs the risk of the guests forgetting about your party (they’re not thinking about the next weekend yet) and announcing it later runs the risk of your guests already having plans.

How to Predict How Many Will Show Up

The next part is really about getting people to the event. A good way to gauge the amount of people that will show up is to figure half the guests that have confirmed and half of the guests that have responded with a “maybe” will actually show up. I have used this formula countless times when throwing a party and it has been pretty accurate every time.

Themes

Themes are a great way to get girls to come to your party. Here are some reasons why themes are great:

•   Themes get people talking. They make your party different from “just another party”.
•   Themes give girls an excuse to dress slutty, which they secretly love to do.
•   Themes invest people in your party. It takes planning to come to a theme party and planning equals investment, which equals commitment.

  In Chapter 6, I go into great detail about different themes you can use to your advantage in your party.

Part II: Presenting the Invitation Itself

Creating an Irresistible Image

Every party must have a good image. The name of the game is excitement: You want people to be excited about your party.

When creating an event invitation on Facebook, for example, you will do things such as use pictures of hot women partying or participating in the theme of your party, then include enticing descriptions and good directions. The key will be that your party will look so novel and enticing that even women you don’t know will show up just to check it out. After all, from the perception you’ll create, they’ll think you’re the most popular guy in town!

Plus, you’ll get a really good idea of how successful your party will be before you even throw it. I would suggest doing a test run to gauge everything with a public event, where your focus is simply getting a ton of people over and then moving on to trimming the fat and perfecting your clientele (we will discuss this later).

Pictures
Pictures are key. If you are going for a particular theme, I suggest adding pictures within that theme to your Facebook event as a way to build your party’s image and encourage people to come. This will give them the idea that you have done this before and it’s going to kick ass.

For example, if you were throwing a “Pimps and Ho’s” party, you would want to find pictures of guys dressed as “pimps” and girls dressed really provocatively.

Where to Find Pictures
To find these pictures, I suggest searching Google images and downloading good images to a folder on your desktop.

To do this search, click on the “Images” section along on the top menu at Google.com and type in a phrase like “hot girls party” or “party” and run the search. If you are searching for a certain party theme, include this in your search, such as “pimps and hos party”.

Other great sites to search for images are: flickr.com, photobucket.com and random people’s Myspace and Facebook profiles.

Once you’ve collected about ten to fifteen images, choose five of the best ones and upload them to your event.

Types of Images to Use
The best kinds of images show hot women, but do NOT look professional. You want it to look like the type of picture you’d see on someone’s Myspace or Facebook profile. You want it to look as if you snapped this photo at one of your own parties.

Remember, hot girls want to go to parties that they see hot girls going to. Guys want to go to parties they see hot girls going to. But nobody wants to go to a party where they just see a bunch of guys. Avoid sausage-fest imagery and make your images “girl-centric”.

Another type of great image to use is from popular culture, such as movies or celebrities. For example, using images from the movie “Old School” or “Animal House” would be a nice touch to throw in. One or two pop-culture pictures maximum.

Descriptions
A solid description is another great way to get people excited. Your tone should be like the “life of the party”: carefree, fun-loving and exciting. You can and should boldly claim that this is the best party out there.

Make sure you tell everyone the amount you are charging and that you will be providing “a ton” of alcohol. Be specific about having enough beer and having plenty of liquor/jungle juice for girls. In future events, I would even go so far as to tell the guys that if they show up as a big group of drunken guys, they will not be let it.

If you are running a door staff (see Chapter 7), you should include this in the invitation. It will make the girls feel more safe and apt to come.

Directions

This is key: Facebook can be set up with a link to Google Maps for easy access, so people can see the directions to your party easily.

I just enter my address into Google Maps (http://maps.google.com) and once it comes up, there’s a button in the upper right corner of the map labeled “Link”. You simply copy the contents of that link into your party description and your potential guests will be able to click the link and see exactly where your party is on the map.

Also, I highly encourage you add your phone number so that people can contact you if they get lost.

Getting Your Guests to Invest

Remember earlier how I said themes are good because it requires your guests to plan and invest energy towards your party? Well this is a great principle in general! If your guests feel like they’ve put some kind of effort or energy into planning to be at your party, it is much less likely that they will blow it off since they wouldn’t want their investment

(be it a costume, a present, a contribution, etc.) to go to waste.

Tip: In the back of your mind, think of ways to get guests to invest in your party so they feel the party is a reward for their efforts, not just another option.

Gaming without “traditional game” will require manipulation of social proof. Being one of the host’s VIPs will definitely help you out.

Becoming the VIP everyone wants to talk to.

This is a two step process. If it’s not your party, then you are going to have to do a little more work. Step one is to get really friendly with the host or at the very least someone who will introduce you to other people at the party. You want to connect with as many people in the party as possible – guys and girls. This will give you leverage over other casual guests and will give you an “in” with the regulars of the social group.

Getting in good with any host is really quite easy once you identify who the host is. If you’re going to a busy party, you can find out easily by just asking who lives here repeatedly and loudly. Then when you get someone to reply go straight up and introduce yourself. Being nice goes a long way and complimenting them on their great party will score you instant points.

Everyone responds to value, so you can do a few things. Introduce them to all the girls you brought and if the host is a guy he will bend over backward to help you out if he thinks you are a connection for girls. If you don’t have that option yet and you’re still in the process of building your social circle, then go the connection route.

You can praise their party and connect with them about how you have parties too. Just briefly talk about some of the troubles of throwing a party or a BBQ to pace what’s going on because if you are a host, then you have tons of things to do.
After connecting briefly invite them to your next party. Come from the frame that you know being a host is hard, but despite it all they are doing a great job. Demonstrate that you know what he is going through and complement them on it. Then offer value by talking about your parties and inviting them. This makes them think that they are doing things right even though hosting is a lot of work it’s worth it because now they just met someone like them that does the same thing and maybe next week they can come to your party.

You can take it a step further by asking him if there is anything you can do for him and help him out if he needs it. Common courtesy and showing empathy goes a long way and before you know it he will be introducing you to everyone and sharing his private stash of good liquor with you. Think of just applying connection rapport with the host and offering him value through having you as a connection. Simple things like helping him remove a drunken guy or helping the host keep someone from coming into the party that’s not wanted goes a really long way.

Now here comes part two to becoming a VIP. It is time to make everyone want you. This is all about exposure. This is accomplished creating an effect where it appears that you know everyone. It’s all about getting yourself out there to as many people as possible. Talk to everyone. No game. Instead use pure easy simple small talk. Ask simple questions. Give compliments. Ask people how their nights are going or if they are having a good time. Be nice and social without worrying about any game. Instead you should just focus on saying hi to everyone.

The more people you talk to, the more people who will start to look at you as you walk around. Soon it will start to spiral and everyone will think that you know everyone even if you don’t. This creates a powerful effect where you are perceived as the most connected guy in the room.

You can amp this effect up using pictures!!! There is a huge difference between just talking to everyone and talking while taking tons of pictures. If you take pictures the camera flashes and everyone else in the room looks over for a
second. They see you talking to girls smiling and being the center of attention. The more you do this, the more everyone sees you with everyone else smiling and then within minutes everyone thinks you are this amazing person that everyone, but them knows. Then girls will start to approach you and the feeding frenzy commences.

Now… I can imagine some guys reading this (especially guys who have read a ton of “pick-up material”) saying that there is no way something this simple could have a powerful effect on women.

For that reason, I am going to break down several reasons why this entirely makes sense and is probably the best way to “game” at parties.

1. Contrast: Most guys at parties nervously cling to their tight little social circle. They hold their drink tightly in front of them, they are intimidated by the other guys and girls who they don’t know and most of the guys at big parties don’t even know the hosts well – they’re just there to pay the cover. By connecting with the guests and the hosts at all, you will totally stand out form all the other guys.

2. Group acceptance: OK, think in terms of caveman days. In the days where getting killed was a very real danger on an everyday basis, women knew that being with the guy who could best protect them was their best choice. But protection can take on many faces – one of the faces of protection is how well-accepted, valued and connected a man is.

Think about it – being with someone who is highly valued, accepted or popular means that this guy is surrounded by others who will protect him and his interest. Not only that, but if the group accepts you it must mean that you have some redeeming qualities and you’re not a “bad” person to know. Having connections and connecting well with people speaks to this very real part of a woman’s attraction “programming”.

3. Glamour does not equal effective. “Pick-up” material has actually gotten to a point where guys believe that if it doesn’t sound elaborate or flashy, it must not work well. The truth is that this is what naturals do. Or, put better, this is what successful normal guys do. Success is success and I would much rather enjoy being a normal guy having success than having to throw on a clown suit and perform for people.

4. In closed social circles, women lower their guard and want to speak to the guys who are seen socializing. The average guy at a party is invisible and virtually worthless to women because of the nervous invisible cage he operates inside of. So when you demonstrate that you are an interesting guy (by socializing), there is no guard against you… you are who the women are there to meet! Women put their guard up only to the men they do not want.

5. The worst that can happen is nothing happens. Think about it – you’re in an environment. People like you because you’re demonstrating that you understand, respect and enjoy the other guests. You will radiate a positive energy and you will be forging connections. Chances are, you will get phone numbers from women who are interested and from guys who want to party with you.

Even if you don’t grab a boatload of phone numbers or pull a girl, you didn’t blow yourself out of the water. You didn’t embarrass yourself or do anything that could have been conceived as weird or creepy or intimidating. And in all likelihood, you will see some of these other people again and they’ll be happy to see you – it might even work to your benefit that you connected with them sometime in the future. You never know who could turn out to be an amazing connection for women or just a really cool guy in general.

6. You’re building your social circle. I think just about all the old pick-up material out there speaks to the audience as if they are a loner. And if they’re not a loner, then they’re out with their wingman or wingmen.

For someone’s life to actually be only revolving purely on pick-up it is at best weird and at worst I believe it to be extremely unhealthy, psychologically and socially. In many ways, it’s not much different than a bunch of people who look to score drugs for their next high – their bond is based on an unnatural addiction, their habits are based around getting some kind of high and their focus and time is totally constricted to a source of worth and self-esteem outside themselves.

This is a screwed up mentality in grained in “classical community theory” and one of the fundamental reasons I would never want to be called a “pick- up artist”. What we’re suggesting is really a clearly laid path to build real, normal relationships with other people. Everyone gains, everyone benefits. Nobody is tricked – you’re actually forming connections and a social circle and using it as an avenue to succeed with women. Just connect with them and invite them to party with you.

7. You’re not starting from “ground zero”. Another common idea in the world of “pick-up” is how you present yourself. Some of the most popular authors on the subject of “pick-up” advocate having a type of elevator-pitch to quickly convey to a woman your “sexual worth”.

This assumes a few things. It assumes that without you giving the elevator- pitch, the woman would not see any “sexual worth” or value in you. When you are in a closed-social environment and people are responding positively to you, that is all of the value that women need to see in order for them to want to know you.

The bottom line here is that rather than only working on ways to try and convey value to women through words, why not take actions to have that sort of value in your life. You will be building personal equity with every connection you make and it shows.