Bottom line, if you maintain order and make it your personal mission to make sure everyone (including yourself) is having fun at your party, then this is all you need to get women interested.
Setting the Stage to Funnel Girls into Your Next Party
Being a great host will powerfully draw people to you because you are the facilitator of everyone’s fun. You own the night. This will create a reputation for you. All you have to do now is befriend everyone and make that one girl you want feel special. Get to know her and then escalate the interaction (which we will get into soon).
People will want to come to your future parties if they had a good time. As long as you have plenty of alcohol and follow the steps I’ve outlined in this book, your guests will feel special and will be more than happy to say all sorts of great things about you. With this type of positive feedback, your next party is sure to have more women from just your guests bringing their friends alone.
On top of that, the pictures that you take will end up in your guest’s Facebook albums. This is why I encourage you to take pictures – your presence in all of these pictures is a way for you to advertise how great your parties are without saying a word.
Now, when you add women to your Facebook profile, it will be very apparent that you throw great parties and have a great social life since you’ll be tagged in all of these pictures with multiple women.
After following this method for a period of time, you will not need to do anything to get new girls to come to your party. Sure, you can add some hot girls as friends on Facebook if you want to hand pick some sexy female guests, but overall the girls that come will be through the network that you’ve created. These are the best kinds of guests because they’re coming in already thinking of you as an amazing guy (from your reputation), so hooking up with them is like shooting fish in a barrel.
Encouraging Your Female Guests to Be Naughty
All girls want is a good excuse. This comes down to making it “not her fault that she hooked up”, as society can put negative judgments on a girl’s actions.
Give girls the excuse to be naughty: Girls want an excuse to dress slutty. Girls want an excuse to act slutty. So give the girls an excuse and they will be sure to come to your party in droves once it’s been established that your parties are fun and you’re not a creep.
Use sexual themes once you have developed a solid base clientele. Once you have thrown enough parties to get most of your female guests comfortable with coming over, it’s time to start throwing parties with naughtier themes. Using a sexual theme naturally gives your party a more sexual vibe, especially once everyone is settled in and comfortable. It’s not essential, but it often accelerates your ability to escalate your interactions into the bedroom.
When it comes down to it, after you have thrown a few good parties you will have made a reputation for yourself and you really won’t need to “game” much at all. You have become the valuable man in the situation and girls will gravitate towards you and your high status.
Getting hot women to see you as the popular, fun, high- status guy is the point of throwing repeated house parties. You become the facilitator of fun and girls will associate their fun nights with you. Then your reputation will build and it will do all the work for you in terms of getting women excited about you. After you’ve thrown a few great parties (two or three), you can easily just pull girls to your room just by saying “come on I’ll give you the grand tour.” Remember, they will already be attracted to you, so it is just a matter of getting them comfortable with you and then it’s ON.
Getting them attracted to you will be taken care of, so your focus should be on befriending them and making them comfortable. Once they are comfortable and you begin to connect with them, go for it. You will already have a powerful attraction from them working in your favor and escalation will be easy.
Framing Party Hook-ups
When it comes to actually hooking up with girls at your party (or any party), the biggest factor in the equation is your mind and how you think about hooking up with girls at a party. The way you look at hook-ups will determine your ability to hook-up at your parties.
You will want to look at party hook-ups as light and fun and a way to blow off steam. Not as meaningful or meaning anything about you, about the girl or about anything substantial between you and her (though you can always follow up with the girl). Having a light, carefree attitude about hooking up at the party will make it much more likely to happen since the girl won’t feel any “weight” or “baggage” when she entertains the thought of hooking up with you.
She knows you’ll be cool about it. What do I mean when I say that? I mean that she inherently gets the feeling that you won’t get all emotional or attached, you won’t attach meaning to it, you won’t hurt her reputation or brag about it – this is what I mean by saying you will be cool about it. The best way to give her that vibe is to simply follow through on those things: don’t kiss and tell and keep your emotional reactions to a minimum.
As a host, I would encourage you to look at hooking up with a female guest as a special favor because you really like her and she’s shown herself to be more than just a pretty face. You should think of things in this way because when you do, she is much more likely to think of it this way too. Do it in a genuine, generous way, not an arrogant or cocky way.
On that same token, make her earn hooking up with you. After all, you are a caring, concerned host who wants all his guests to have a great time. If she’s not really energetically pursuing your desire and attention, she’s not returning the value you are worth.
Recognize Your Own Value
Finally, you need to fully recognize how great and valuable you are. Your ability to hook-up at a party (and really in any situation) is proportional to the value that you recognize in yourself. You already are valuable, but you have to truly realize it. I would encourage you to take 5 minutes before every party you throw to reflect on this.
How to Close the Deal with the Girl You Choose
When I throw a party, it is my belief that every single female guest there wants to sleep with me. It does not mean that all of them will be able to, for one reason or another, but the most important factor is my own belief that I can have my choice. Psychotic as it may sound at first, I have drilled this belief into my head to the point where it went from being just a desire into a very pronounced reality.
Still, even before I intentionally reinforced this belief, girls still were interested in me simply because I was the host. In fact, I didn’t realize at first the power that being a host really had until later on down the line.
You will notice that girls will talk to you about one thing or another. They will introduce you to their friends. They will compliment you or, if you’re meeting them for the first time, they will say that they’ve heard about you. When a girl takes the time to speak to you, it’s because she’s interested in you. She doesn’t need to speak to you – she’s choosing to because you strike her as the best choice there.
Be Laid Back – Let Her Seduce You
Now I want to point something out to you that will save you a bunch of heartache if you haven’t yet realized it for yourself. And that is that when a woman shows interest in a guy, most guys will feel like it’s time for them to perform for her as if he were some kind of dancing monkey. Never do this, especially as the host.
Instead when a girl is talking to you, just put your attention on her for the moment. Think good, positive thoughts about her and the idea of having fun with her. This keeps the vibe light and fun. Feel free to tease her a bit (push on where you feel she’s strong) and joke with her. Just keep it light because, in the public space, you want to be perceived as available to all the women.
A Player Reputation Can Help, But Be Classy…
Having a player reputation is absolutely fine, but hooking up in front of everyone will work against you in the long run. Girls will be curious about you if they hear or perceive that you have many women in your life, but they will see you as a “social liability” if you actually hook up in front of everyone (since the perception will be that you will hook up with everything that walks and that, by extension, the women you choose are “little whores”). Best to leave everything to the women’s imagination and have positive perception on your side.
Knowing When a Woman is Interested
Between the alcohol, your hosting position and your laid back attitude, it is only a matter of time before a woman approaches you with a very clear intention to hook up with you. Guys will ask me what to look for to know that a woman wants to hook up. I am telling you right now: When a woman wants to hook up with you, it will be such a green light that people from across the room will be able to tell. Just be laid back, enjoy your party and it will happen.
Sexually Escalating Your Interaction
When you’re talking to a woman, you will have moments where something inside you says to escalate the interaction to a more risky/sexual plane. You may be talking and get the feeling to move in a little closer. You may feel like you should kiss her. You may feel like you should take her hand or even lead her up to your room.
My experience has been that whenever you have that feeling, act on it immediately. Do so smoothly, but don’t hesitate or think about it. If you are nervous about making a move physically with a girl, don’t worry: This is your party so there is no better time to take a risk than at your own party.
To tie it all together, this is why you want to have people handling your party. By having someone watching the door and having good friends to look after your house, you have the ability to take the girl to your room and have fun with her without having to worry about what’s happening in your house.
Remember, when you are getting the feeling from the girl that she wants to hook up, you can and should trust that feeling. Even still, most of the time the girl will want you to give her an excuse to facilitate the seduction. Some lines that my buddies and I have used are:
- Hey I’ve got some really good vodka in my room, want to come do a shot with me?
- Hey, you want the house tour? [Note: This tour always ends with my room.]
- Hey come with me, I want to talk to you but it’s so loud in here.
- Hey want to see this book in my room about different cities in Europe? [Note: Use anything you want to show her, as long as it’s in a good location for you and her to hook up.]These are just examples. The point is that you can say just about anything to give her a reason to go with you. This allows her conscience to remain intact since for some girls it feels “slutty” to convey that she actually intends to hook up with you. With an excuse, she feels she has plausible deniability. That is to say that she feels she can later say, “Oh, I didn’t intend hook up. It just happened…”
A Closing Note on Succeeding with Women Through Parties.
I know some of you guys will be reading this chapter and saying, “Wait, that’s it? I thought you were going to teach a whole bunch of sophisticated techniques to get women to have sex with me?”
There is so much material out there now about tricks and tactics to pick up women that I think men are beginning to think using that stuff only way to be successful with women in a consistent or powerful way. Meanwhile, the obvious eludes them.
This book is about actually providing real value to others in a way that naturally makes you extremely attractive. By following this path, you are not convincing or tricking women into thinking you are a great guy… you are actually being the great guy. Just because the path isn’t super glamorous or flashy does not mean that it’s not extremely powerful.
At the same time, for those who love technique, there is plenty more fun stuff to come. I just wanted to make this note so that you recognize what we’re aiming for here. Why try to create an illusion when you can much more easily be the genuine article?